Question 2 - Does your man have a college degree?

Abby: This is a mandatory one in my book for three reasons. First, a man with a college degree will statistically earn more over his lifetime. This recession has also emphasized the difference in the earning power of a college degree because the unemployment rate for the college educated is near 4%, about half that of the general population. Since finances are the most common thing that causes couples to fight, you should set yourself up for success. By picking a man with a college degree, you are decreasing your odds of misery caused by money. You won't eliminate the money issues, but you'll at least decrease them. And the goal here is to help you determine if the guy you think is fabulous now will be the guy you think is fabulous in 50 years.

The second reason it's important is that college educated people are more likely to associate with other college educated people. This allows you and your man access to a network to help you achieve your goals, whatever they might be.

The last reason is that he'll have more to talk about. While you might not be doing much talking now, trust me, when you're old, this will be really important.

Francesca: Finishing college does mean something. Your man should have a college degree especially if you have one. If you finished college than you know it takes commitment. Listen it's an accomplishment to be proud of that not everyone can say they've done. Even if he doesn't know what he's going to do with the degree he has, even if he's not doing what he went to college for the bottom line is he went and he has something to fall back on if his other plans fall through.

Studies show people with a college degree earn more than someone without one. Being the breadwinner isn't a bad thing IF you have a choice in whether or not you're the one bringing home bank. Once you get involved with someone and have kids, you are in danger of letting things "fall into place." And that place might be where you don't have the choice on who the breadwinner is going to be which is where the pressure begins to have it all and do it all and guess who's "doing it all"? YOU.

Alright this is just my opinion but I bet I could find a hell of a lot of women who say it appears as though they take care of the kids more, worry more and take on a bigger load than their man. Having a college degree sure doesn't guarantee anything but a man with a labor intensive job which are a lot of jobs college isn't required can have a huge argument to be tired all the time. I've heard this before - you have a desk job what are you tired about? Wow have I gone off on a tangent or what!