Question 30 - Do you play mind games with your man?

Abby: I was standing in line at the grocery the other day when the man behind me told his buddy that his ex had just texted him, but he wasn’t going to reply right away. But he was going to respond. I turned and looked at him like he was mad. He asks me if I think he’s right. No Way!

All he was doing was stringing along a situation in which he really had no interest. When you really care for someone, you can’t wait to respond to him. And if your man really cares for you, then he can’t wait to hear from you. Playing games just so that you feel that you’re in a position of power leads to your man feeling insecure in the relationship. That leads to a lack of trust. Not in the sense of faithfulness, but in the sense of security. You wouldn’t want to be in that position any more than he does.

Playing games leads to breakups and is one of the worst things you can do in a relationship. If you feel like you need to play games with your man, you’ve got a problem. If you’re the one instigating the games, you really aren’t that into your man. If he’s the one playing games, he’s just not that into you. Neither of which leads to a long, healthy marriage.

Francesca: I play mind games with my man. You would think that as time goes by in your relationship you would have to play less games. Not with my man. Seems like the older our relationship gets, the more games we have to play to keep our relationship going.

It’s really unfortunate because I don’t want to play games but seems like I always wind up having to. It’s a mind game where it seems whoever gets upset at the other first is the one to be in control. Mind games are a way for me to try to get out of a submissive role. A high maintenance man requires you to live and breathe for that person, no matter how many kids you have, no matter how tired you are, no matter what is going around you. It doesn’t matter how you feel and that’s where the mind games come in.

If you can’t be honest about your feelings with your man, whether your feelings are good or bad, reconsider your relationship because it will only get more difficult as time goes on. Mind games can never be the foundation of any healthy relationship. If you find yourself feeling forced to play them, take it as a sign that the relationship you’re in isn’t healthy.