Abby: For the same reason you should have a hobby, so should your man. You don’t want him to become boring. You don’t want the only thing you have to talk about to become the kids. He needs to stay active and involved with something.
That said, be wary of the man with too many hobbies. My friend’s husband has so many hobbies, he doesn’t have time for his family. Recently she was laid up in bed, yet he couldn’t cancel his tennis game to take care of the kids. He is an example of living a single married life. He has so many hobbies, his relationship with my friend is more like that of a boss to his personal assistant or housekeeper.
So make sure that your man has a hobby of his own but that he’s not out of control.
Francesca: My advice is to know yourself well and I mean know yourself. You don't want to spend your life feeling as if you have no control over your time. If you look at your man and think he is controlling in any way about anything think long term. If you know you are a people pleaser BE CAREFUL because you will wind up being the one who gives up your hobbies so that your man can still have his.
Resentment is such an ugly feeling and one that can consume you. Make a conscious decision to NEVER neglect yourself. Marry someone who "worships" you - be the worshipEE not the worshippER! If you have a hobby at a young age that is a passion for you make it "a term and condition" of any relationship you are in.
Once you start giving up the small things in life you start losing yourself and the end result of that in my experience is never good. Get control and stay in control of your life. Make things happen, don't let life happen to you. If you practice this early on in your young relationships, the practice will set the stage for the remainder.
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